Beat Breakfast Panel:I think my friend is in love with me and I don't know what to do

I have a friend, female, that I have known since 2001.  We started off co-workers, but over time became good friends.  We hung out back then more than we do now as life just took us different ways.  She has kids and I had kids, and I end up going somewhere else to work. Last time I think I physically saw her was 2013?  We every so often chat on Facebook and say, sure, we will meet and hang out again.

Recently:  She called me and we were chatting, just catching up and having a good laugh.  I find that she only calls when she has been drinking, I could be wrong, just a feeling.  Through the conversation, she would keep saying I love you, and I would say I love you too… been friends for so long, friends that no matter what time has past we can just pick up where we left off.  We keep talking, and she would say it again. Now I am kinda getting the feeling she is meaning this in a whole different kind of way. In the past, I have also got the gut feeling that she was feeling a bit more than what I am in anyway bargaining for.  She has once made a pass at me, but I chalked it up to being drunk. Girls do weird things when they are drunk.

As our conversation continued she began asking questions, questions that I wouldn’t ask my best friend.  Sexual questions. I lightheartedly jumped around the whole topic. I said something about she has a husband there, it is a blur really.  Still shaking my head on the whole conversation.

I am not gay or bisexual, nor have I ever shown towards her that I am.  She is married.

I don’t know if I just blow it off to her being drunk maybe, or is she dead serious?  Do I just cut ties with her completely? Do I say something to her? Ask her how she truly feels?  I am not sure how I would react to that or what I would say if she does say she is attracted to me. Flattered? Creeped out?  I feel that I say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing would either embarrass her and would never hear from her (not a bad thing)?  My life may be boring and no boyfriend, but not looking for just anyone that tells me they love me!

Any advice?

Yours Truly, Attracting the wrong sex

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