Hi Beat Breakfast,
So I have a bit of a problem. I have been casually flirting with one of my friends for a while, it’s never been anything serious and it’s just kinda how I am with people for the most part without meaning to be. Here’s the catch.
I had a crush on this friend for a while and I tried for months to get him to notice me in a way that wasn’t like one of the guys. He didn’t, so I moved on and started looking elsewhere.
Then out of the blue a few days ago the conversation got super heated and he admitted that he thought I was hot and without really asking me he sent pictures and videos of…down there. I didn’t know what to do so I went along with it but it makes me super uncomfortable because I didn’t ask or say it was okay to do.
A few months ago I would have maybe been okay with it but now it feels really weird and I don’t know how to broach it with him because we’re good friends and I don’t necessarily want to lose the friendship. I am terrified that he will tell our friend group what happened and have them all hate me or gossip about me or make jokes out of it.
On top of this, I met this amazing guy and we’ve only been talking for a month but I really want to pursue it and I can’t do that if this friend is continually trying to sext me and “distract me with his junk”. It’s happened a few times now and I don’t know how to react other than an “oh nice” or a “;P”. I’m horrible at confrontation so it’s hard for me to deal with this.
How do I bring this up with my friend? Is there a way to ask him to stop without it ruining our friendship? I’m flattered that he thinks I’m pretty and all but I don’t want this to continue and I don’t know how to make it stop without hurting his feelings, especially since I played along at first. All I know is I’m super uncomfortable and don’t know what to do.
-Confused and Grossed Out in KW
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