Beat Breakfast Panel: Is it wrong that I don't want HER as my husband's "best man"?

Hello Carlos and Laura!

My boyfriend and I attended a wedding this weekend on Thanksgiving Sunday. It was a beautiful wedding and we had a great time. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost two years and this was the first wedding we have attended together.

During the wedding we got talking about our potential future wedding. A topic I have been dreading even though I totally love him and want to spend my life with him. You see, shortly after we started dating he told me he wants his best friend at the time (a woman) to be his best man. I never had the guts to bring it back up again. He barely talks to this friend anymore and has only seen her a few times since we began dating. He mentioned again this weekend that he wants her as his best man.

I get that they were best friends at one point but they hardly talk anymore. More importantly, I think it’s extremely disrespectful to feel the need to have a another women standing on your other side at the alter. Have her be a grooms men then but don’t put her right next to you!

Is it bad that this is almost a deal breaker for me? I love him very much but it really bothers me. I know he doesn’t see it as disrespectful like I do and I don’t know how to bring it up again and share my feelings. Am I crazy?

Any and all help would be appreciated,


Deal Breaker


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